Thursday, January 5, 2012

Second Life, The Seedier Side ... but not what you think.


                On my first day as a psychology major, I remember the professor walking up to his podium, bracing his hands and raising his voice as he said "All right class, We are going to be talking about SEX!" The excitement of the males and the audible groans of the females continued for a minute before he raised a hand for silence and continued "... and the emotional ramifications of it", at which point the boys suddenly lost interest and the girls perked up.

                I think this illustrates perfectly my interest in writing this particular review. Many who only have a passing familiarity with Second Life may only know of the seedier side. Glass genitals, cyber sex, web cam video with a girl you couldn't hope to actually capture the attention of all vying for the attention of patrons with money to spend.

                In the rush to settle more primal urges I am fairly sure that many don't even think twice about what might have brought the companions whose time you are purchasing to the place that you found them. In Second Life, it is a choice not a demand. The companions, escorts and dancers are choosing to do what they are doing to satisfy a need of their own.

                I can't speak to every single person's motivation, I can however let you in on a few secrets.
                The first, is the power and confidence that you can gain being in control of the sexual situation. If your life feels out of control, taking control of a patron, taking control of the room through sheer personality can be the ego boost you need to face the next day. The patron might think they are in control but this is the cyber verse and the power button is only a few inches away. They control the encounter, they control your arousal and they decide when they are done with you.

                The second, is a feeling of belonging. There is a sense of family, of unity when you bare all with your sisters (or brothers) in arms. You see every part of each other, a complete openness that most people will never understand. There is something to be said for that deep bond with your fellows that makes you feel safe, loved and accepted.

                The third and final point at least for this review would be that it is a chance for the companions to explore a side of themselves that they do not feel safe exploring  in the real world. Maybe their personality is such in person that they could never state the needs they seek to meet in this virtual setting. Knowing yourself is a powerful thing on its own. Knowing what makes you happy, sad, hurts, and heals can make your real life that much more special because you know what you need to do, or not do to achieve your own personal best outcomes.

                In the case of this article, I wandered into Jinxies while looking for a club or two to DJ at occasionally. I started to wander off but one of the dancers was nice to me, in a conversational way so I stayed a bit longer. What really caught my attention however was the momma bear guarding the girls. The owner of the club, Dee Kass, was impressive.

                She would tell you that writers annoy the hell out of her. From what I was told, many men try to come under the guise of writing about the club to get a little free attention. That isn't good business, and it isn't polite.

                The sheer aggressiveness when I told her I was a writer was intriguing. It felt like it was more than money to her. I did not feel like she was being a bear to protect her bottom line, so much as she was looking out for her girls. That is something that I as a guardian can completely understand and applaud.

                I didn't even bother trying to refute her or argue. The fact that I was innocent of her charges was moot. She had a job to do, protect the best interest of her employee's and her business. I would say the women who choose to work with her, are in good hands no pun intended.

                Its seems that in both real life, and second life this business breeds that strong protective instinct which I am personally thrilled about.

                I suppose for a review of a club you want to hear how sexy the girls are, how the decor pulls together, and maybe even "hey man, how much for a lap dance" If you want to know that type of thing, than by all means come visit them. If you were always curious as to the type of person that works in these places, I hope I enlightened you. If you are a girl considering work as an exotic dancer, I would recommend Jinxies. There is a sense of camaraderie here that is palpable.

This has been an Artis moment, bringing just a touch of emotion to the rock and roll of Second Life.

((Out of respect for the venue, I will not be posting pictures. If you want to take a look around, I will be posting the slurl http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Jinxies/74/150/23))

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